Yes, I am also one of you and belong to the world of mum’s that rotates around the family and the children. Just to introduce myself , I am first time mum and has a 3.7 years old son...I spent 8.5 years of my life in office however, have resigned a couple of months back, as I felt that it was the time for me to prioritize my family & my son over my work. I know it must be sounding mad to few but trust me; I am enjoying each bit of it and am not unhappy with my decision as yet. Though, some times I miss the office chaos, never ending e-mails & the office gossips.
When I was working, my son was looked after by my parents and sometimes by my mum-in-law. So I can proudly say he has got best of both the worlds. He has got good family values by staying with the elders. He respects elders and spend time with them.
Ever since, I have left my job I have been around him 24/7 and to be honest I have observed many changes in his behavior. Although he is very happy, cute, through gentlemen and affectionate child but lately he has become more aggressive and I keep wondering how this change happened to him.
Situation : Let’s talk about yesterday evening only, my sister-in-law, whose son is of the same age came to my place and my son was perfectly fine for 1-2 hours but after that he became really violent and he didn’t want to listen to anyone. He started throwing cushions, news paper or toys. He started scratching others and would act violently. He hit other children in the park and often try to snatch things from them
Reasons: I have been thinking hard as why has he become so aggressive and I feel there are different reasons:
1) Cartoon on TV is one of the biggest culprits. He watches all the Spiderman, Superman series and wants to be powerful like them hence try all his fighting techniques on others.
2) He sometimes gets anxious in presence of large crowd and starts behaving violently.
3) His appetite is also one of the reasons of change in actions.
4) At times he wants something but is not vocal about it
Way Out : Trust me , over 3.5 years i have learned that there is nothing right or wrong and it all depends upon the way you handle the situation. In my case, i always try and speak to him to know the reason.
Occasionally involving him in different activities and games also helps him to forget about the incident. However i make sure that i do speak to him afterwards and let him know about the pros and cons of his behavior
Best is to spend time with the child to understand why is he behaving like that. Trust me ,98% times this would work.
I must admit that Parenting is definitely not an easy job. As days unfold I also keep learning something new. I am excited and eager to know the experiences of your part of world and how do you cope with these behavior ??
Its my promise to keep you updated with my part of world and Watch out the space for my other parenting challenge.. till then Happy Parenting !!
